So you think you're ready to find Mr or Miss Right! Well lets see if you have thought things through and help you determine if you really are ready to share your life with someone.
1. Do you know yourself?
This is a simple but yet often overlooked question many do not ask themselves before they venture in to a relationship. Many of us think we are ready at a certain age in life, or that we are ready at a certain stage in life, but too often we simply don't assess thoroughly enough if we are actually ready. More often than not that is because we do not really know or understand what we are in for. It's important to have a solid foundation and understanding of who you are. That you have spent enough time getting to know yourself, what you like and what you love. Once you have settled on who you are you will always be yourself. If you find that you change around certain people to try and fit in you are not ready.
You see before you think you really are ready, you really need to ask why? In the scheme of long term relationship status you need to ask what makes you think you're ready? The other questions are when do you think is a good time for yourself and how would you like to meet or date potential partners. Basically you need to have some sort of plan because this will be the most important decision of your life. One last question to ask yourself is what qualities in a person are you looking for and what are the absolute deal breakers for you. Having these clear guides can save you confusion and sift out the time wasters.
It's important when choosing a potential partner that you are both heading in the same direction. You will need to discover prior to getting in to a long term relationship what you want in your future. What happiness do you want to create with someone else. If you choose someone that has different goals then eventually you will both head in different directions, so make sure you know for yourself where you are heading and then you can quickly assess if your potential partner is on the same level.
3. Understand your strengths and weaknesses
So simply knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are will help you to assess potential partners and if they will strengthen your weaknesses and if you strengthen their weaknesses. It will also help you to determine if you both have strengths that may clash or both have the same weaknesses that may cause issues in the relationship later on down the track. Depending on the strengths and weaknesses of both parties will determine how much of an impact this will have on the relationship but it is good to know upfront.
4. Opposites attract
It's really important to understand that the opposite sex does not think like you. A great example of this is men are straight talkers and to the point. Women talk in circles around the subject before they get to the point.
Learning to understand the difference between you and your potential partner will help you to communicate more effectively when you need to.
Dating gives you the opportunity to connect with someone and become friends. Then you can discover if they are a good fit before you enter a relationship with anyone. But what if you have been on 100 dates and still haven't met any potentials close to what you're looking for?
Maybe you need to change the method you are picking these dates up from. Maybe you need to stop forcing it and get on with your own life and keep improving yourself and your partner to be will come to you at the right time. If you find yourself obsessing with meeting your future life partner then it's time to assess yourself again. The truth is people that really know who they are happy with their own company. They are content with themselves and usually are pursuing their own dreams and aspirations.
6. Master thinking first
Try not to let the excitement of new love cloud your judgement. Too often we find people fall quickly madly in love with someone and actually missed all the signs of it being the wrong person for them. They then wonder how they got there heart broken.
Always think, and use your intuition to guide you. Trust in your own instinct. If you have a feeling that something is not quite right about someone then 9 times out of 10 you are right. Kill it before it grows.
7. Understand the law of attraction
You will always attract the right person to your life if you live your life as your authentic self and do what makes you happy and do what you love.
If for some reason it doesn't work out you should be strong enough within yourself to carry on with a life and take the lessons learnt and grow from them. People are never meant to be kept, we are all meant to be free, so remember to let those that need to fly go with a joyful heart, because one day your journey will lead to the right one.