Recently I caught up with a girlfriend who lives across the ditch. During our conversation it became blatantly obvious to me we had both been dealing with the stresses of life, love & parenting. We had been coping in different ways, chocolate was a common denominator.
All this stress got me thinking about a phrase that's been trending online the past month. Self Love.
By definition 'Self' is; a persons essential being that distinguishes them from others. Love of course is something a lot of people may never understand.
Self love is defined as the instinct by which one's actions are directed to the promotion of one's own welfare or well-being, especially an excessive regard for one's own advantage.
So here are my five tips self-love...
1. Practice self care daily
It's amazing what a goodnight sleep does for your body, try to get 8 hours a night from at least Monday to Thursday. Fill your fridge with leafy greens and whole foods. Exercises daily, even if it's just a stroll around your local park.
2. Be thankful
Taking the time to reflect and project at the beginning or end of your day can be immensely helpful. Before my feet hit the floor I like to take 5 minutes to think of everything I am thankful for. Focusing your inner energy on positive thoughts helps to dispel any self doubt you might be having about your life situation.
3. Just do you
Look at all your relationships, friendships and analyze who you are spending time with the most, those people are a true reflection of who you are. If you are in some relationships that are no longer serving you, distance yourself from that person. End any friendships that are taxing and focus on taking care of who you let into your inner circle.
4. Let your freak flag fly
Don't want to straighten your hair today? free the fro! Want to buy that hot pink lippy? Go for it! When you start taking care of yourself more you will surprised at how all the little details no longer matter, you can forget about caring what others think of your outfit and just let your uniqueness shine.
5. Believe in yourself
When negative self talk creeps in about how you could have, would have, should have make a conscious decision and say no more. Gently guide your thoughts to a positive direction. Dispell doubt with self belief and try to imagine yourself where you want to be oppose to where you are right now. Self love means telling yourself that you are worthy, you are capable and you do love yourself.